Everywhere you look there are managers and there are employees. Yet, a lot of managers out there are not managers at all. And some employees are actually extraordinary managers.  What am  I talking about? I’m talking about True Managers – those remarkable people who work to manage themselves.

A true manager is a self-manager: A true manager understands the most difficult employee to train is herself and she spends a lifetime working at it.

A true manager has a personal value system. Rather than judge other people’s values and choices, a true manager spends time determining what his values are and how he can better live by them.

A true manager evaluates herself. Instead of thinking she knows what others are thinking, a true manager understands it is her job to evaluate her motives because she wants her motives to be in line with her personal values.

A true manager manages his thinking. I believe this is the greatest strength of every true manager.  No one is exempt from disappointment, failure, or pain.   A true manager does not allow his emotions to navigate his thought processes.  Instead, he sees resentment and sour grapes for the waste of time they are and chooses to think about ways he can build relationships and enhance productivity.

A true manager manages her words and actions. She knows every one of her words and actions come from her and no one else.  She knows better than to blame anyone for anything she says or does.

A true manager apologizes when he slips up. Out of compassion for himself and the person he hurt, a true manager always steps up, apologizes, and makes amends when possible.  A true manager knows he will have to do this every now and then because he is only human.

A true manager is transparent. He is the same person at home, at work, and at play. He is comfortable with himself and doesn’t need to wear a mask.

A true manager is a lifelong learner: A true managers has the humilty to know her most valuable resource is those people around her.  A true manager never puts herself on a pedestal, but instead opens her eyes, ears, and her heart so she may better understand and serve those people around her.

A true manager knows he cannot control others. He may make requests but he knows deep down inside he has absolutely no control over another person’s decisions.  Instead, a true manager works hard to control himself.